Learn how to build genuine connections and confidence for the shy and socially anxious

“Ask an Open-Ended Curious Question”

Theme:
🌿 Connection|Time:
5-30 minutes

Your challenge:

Today, when you talk to someone - a friend, colleague, or family member - skip the default "How are you?" and ask a question that opens a small real window into their life.

For example:

›"What’s one of your favorite memories from the past year?"
›"What place on earth would you most like to visit if you could?"
›"What’s one of your favorite books you’ve read this year?"
›"What’s something that made you laugh recently?"

Then, listen fully, without multitasking or planning your next reply. Just be there. The reason why open-ended questions are so powerful is because they invite the other person to share their own story, their own perspective, their own feelings. It is a powerful way to create a connection.

Why this matters:

When we're anxious, we often stay on autopilot in conversations, asking default questions because we're afraid of saying the wrong thing. Deeper questions create moments of genuine connection that our brains crave. They remind us that we’re not just exchanging words, we’re sharing lives.

Each genuine question you ask is a small act of bravery. It plants a seed of trust and shows you that you *can* navigate social situations, one conversation at a time.

Variants:

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Low energy

Ask one deeper question over text.

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Moderate energy

Ask the open-ended question in person during a short chat.

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High energy

After the open-ended question, ask a follow-up question to keep the conversation going. You can also answer the question yourself afterwards.

You made it!

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